ANGER - ANGER MANAGEMENT - HUMAN EMOTIONS
ANGER STORIES & ANGER MANAGEMENT - EMOTIONS
BOOKS ABOUT ANGER - ANGER MANAGEMENT - ALL AGES
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Alphabetized for your convenience with short descriptions to save you research time.
Affirmation Web (The): A Believe in Yourself Adventure by Lori Lite with Helder Botelho (illus). (1997 - Ages 9-12)
Teaches children how to use affirmations as tools to build self-esteem and confidence.
Affirmation Weaver: A Believe in Yourself Story, Designed to Help Children Boost Self-esteem While Decreasing Stress and Anxiety. (Indigo Ocean Dreams) by Lori Lite with Max Stasuyk (illus).
Children love to turn self-doubt into self-belief. Children relate to the dolphin in this story as the sea creatures show him how to believe in himself. Watch your child s self esteem grow as the sea creatures weave a web of positive statements. This feel good technique can be used to bolster self-image, manage stress and anxiety, and accomplish goals. This encouraging story will bring a smile to your face and give your child a tool that will last a lifetime.
Alexander and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Day by Judith Viorst with Ray Cruz (illus). (1987 - Ages 4-8)
"I went to sleep with gum in my mouth and now there's gum in my hair and when I got out of bed this morning I tripped on the skateboard and by mistake I dropped my sweater in the sink while the water was running and I could tell it was going to be a terrible, horrible, no good, very bad day." So begin the trials and tribulations of the irascible Alexander...
Andrew's Angry Words by D. Lachner with Tjong-King (illus). (1997 - Ages 4-8)
In this cautionary tale illustrated with cartoonlike watercolors, Andrew's bad mood has a ripple effect on the people around him when his swear words sour his sister first, then a poet, then a princess, and so on. Similar in concept to a Mrs. Piggle Wiggle story, Lachner's light fantasy (with dragon and princess characters and Andrew's ability to fly) imparts a moral. In the end, Andrew learns his lesson from a lady who refuses to use the angry words and who gives Andrew a bundle of "kind and happy" words to take home.
Angry Dragon by Thierry Robberecht with Philippe Goossens (illus). (2004 - Ages 4-8)
When a little boy hears "no" from his mother one time too many, he feels his anger rising. It burns and builds, finally turning him into a giant dragon that destroys everything in its path. Nothing is safe: not toys or stuffed animals—not even Mom and Dad. But fortunately, a dragon's fire doesn't last forever. The simple, bold illustrations give shape to the power that emotions have to overwhelm and transform us, and vividly bring to life the angry dragon that lurks inside us all.
Boy (A) and a Turtle: A Children's Relaxation Story to improve sleep, manage stress, anxiety, anger (Indigo Dreams) by Lori Lite with Kimberly C. Fox (illus). (2007 - Ages 4-8)
Reader: This is a wonderful addition to our bedtime routine. My kids love the rainbow and the fact they are just tickled that turtle is copying the boy as they learn to relax. My son said that the colors make him feel happy and my daughter wants to read it again. I personally feel my own stress levels drop as I read the story to them. The author takes a difficult concept(visualizing or imagining) and makes it simple. I have even reminded them to copy the turtle when we are in the car and things are getting loud. It works.
Bubble Riding: A Relaxation Story, Designed to Help Children Increase Creativity While Lowering Stress and Anxiety Levels. (Indigo Ocean Dreams) by Lori Lite with Max Stasuyk (illus). (2008)
Children love to visualize, or imagine, filling their bodies with the colors of the rainbow. Children join the sea child and turtle as they take a bubble ride into the world of relaxation. Visualization, also known as creative imagery , can lower stress and anxiety levels. It can have a positive impact on your child s health, creativity, and performance. It can be used to decrease pain and anger.
Cain and Abel : Finding the Fruits of Peace by Sandy Eisenberg Sasso with Joani Keller Rothenberg (illus). (2001 - Baby-Preschool)
Cain and Abel were born into God's garden called Earth, a world of bright days for working in their fields and peaceful nights to share the stories of their dreams. The first children, the first brothers, they were so much alike yet so different--Cain a shepherd, Abel a farmer. They lived side by side, surrounded by trees where wonderful, exotic fruits of many kinds grew: everywhere orapples, rasdew, and banangerines ripened all on a single branch. But jealousy, anger, and fear took all of this away.
Danny, the Angry Lion by D. Lachner and Gusti. (2000 - Ages 4-8)
Danny wanted sausages and raspberry juice for lunch, but his mother only gave him beans and potatoes. Danny hissed and angrily pushed his plate away. A wild and dangerous gleam shone in his eyes. Danny donned his lion suit, sharpened his claws, and set out on the prowl, determined to devour anything and anyone he got his paws on! A series of surprising encounters takes the edge off Danny's appetite--and his anger--as Danny discovers how being friendly can turn the blackest mood bright.
Fears, Doubts, Blues, and Pouts: Stories About Handling Fear, Worry, Sadness, and Anger (Wonder Woods Series) by Norman Wright and Gary J. Oliver with Sharon Dahl (illus). (1999 - Ages 4-8)
It's a woeful day in Wonder Woods when Ric and Rac Raccoon get scared, Bruce Moose has the "what-ifs" hanging on him, Buford Bear has the blues, or HipHop Bunny puts on his angry face. Fortunately, the Wonder Woods friends are always around to help each other work out their feelings. In this compilation of four beloved tales, kids will discover that fear can be either a friend or a foe.
Goodnight Caterpillar (The): A Children's Relaxation Story to Improve Sleep, Manage Stress, Anxiety, Anger (Indigo Dreams) (Hardcover) by Lori Lite with Kimberly C. Fox (illus). (2007 - Ages 4-8)
Reader: My 2 sons (and I) enjoy this story every single night. They never get tired of hearing it and I never get tired of reading it. I have a 7 year old who suffers from severe food allergies and deals with a lot of stress on a daily basis, this book has done wonders for him. Not only is it a great bedtime story that helps them relax ( me too... ) it teaches a lesson that they can use throughout their lives. I highly recommend this book to every parent. Your child WILL love it, and you will too.-Karen M. Porter --Amazon.com
I Was So Mad (Look-Look) by Mercer Mayer. (2000 - Baby-Preschool)
Mercer Mayer's very popular Little Critter stars in a picture book about feeling angry. With minimal text and funny illustrations to spell out every new situation, the book shows the Critter family saying no to everything Little Critter wants to do. He can't keep frogs in the tub. He can't help paint the house. Finally, mad at the world, Little Critter announces he will run away. When pals come by and ask him to come and play baseball, our young hero's mood quickly changes. He grabs his bat and heads off for the game...
I'm Furious (Crary, Elizabeth, Dealing With Feelings.) by Elizabeth Crary with Jean Whitney (illus). (1993 - Ages 4-8)
Too often kids’ feelings get ignored. "I'm Furious" is part of the "Dealing with Feelings" series that helps children and adults accept and acknowledge their emotions. It also helps them distinguish between feelings and actions. Even more important, the stories give kids several ways to cope with feelings by utilizing the "choose-your-own-ending" format. They also allow parents and teachers to discuss other situations in a nonjudgmental way.
Indigo Dreams: Relaxation and Stress Management Bedtime Stories for Children, Improve Sleep, Manage Stress and Anxiety (Indigo Dreams) by Lori Lite. (2006 - Ages 4-8 - Audio CD)
A 60-minute CD/audio book designed to entertain your child while introducing them to relaxation and stress-management techniques. Four unique bedtime stories incorporate breathing, visualizations, muscular relaxation and affirmations. These are the same techniques recommended for adults but presented in a fun, interactive format that appeal to children. An additional music sound track is included to further enhance your child s relaxation experience.
Indigo Dreams (3 CD Set): Children's Bedtime Stories Designed to Decrease Stress, Anger and Anxiety while Increasing Self-Esteem and Self-Awareness (Indigo Dreams) by Lori Lite. (2007 - Audio CDs - Set of 3)
Now children can relax and learn stress-management techniques with all 3 CDs in the Indigo Dreams Series, by Lori Lite. Indigo Dreams and Indigo Ocean Dreams entertain children with stories and music while introducing them to Yoga breathing, affirmations, visualizations, and muscular relaxation. Children learn to decrease stress, anxiety, anger, sleep problems, and other challenges while increasing self-esteem with these traditional medically proven techniques.
Indigo Ocean Dreams: 4 Children's Stories Designed to Decrease Stress, Anger and Anxiety while Increasing Self-Esteem and Self-Awareness (Indigo Dreams) by Lori Lite. (2006 - Audio CD)
Indigo Ocean Dreams is a 60-minute CD/audio book designed to entertain your child in an ocean setting while introducing them to four relaxation and stress-management techniques. Children follow their sea friends along as they learn to release and manage anger with Angry Octopus, build self-esteem with Affirmation Weaver, implement Yoga breathing with Sea Otter Cove and visualize with Bubble Riding.
Josh's Smiley Faces: A Story About Anger by Gina Ditta-Donahue with Anne Catharine Blake (illus). (2003 - Baby-Preschool)
(Magination Press) Consumer text for children is a fictional story about a boy who learns how to manage his anger. Outlines a simple behavioral management approach that parents can follow with young children who have demonstrated problems coping with anger. Through the use of smiley faces, children are rewarded for acceptable behavior. Softcover, hardcover available.
Kids' Yoga Posters - Mudras: The Feelings in You are the Feelings in Me (Indigo Dreams) by Lori Lite. (2005)
Yoga mudras have new meaning when children explore hand positions that empower them to be active participants in creating their own healthy, heart driven, peaceful lives. Children of various nationalities show that although we may look different on the outside we all share the same feelings! You can reach the children in your life when you display these beautiful, uplifting posters in your yoga studio, class, home or wellness center. These powerful, clear messages are enjoyed by children and adults!
No Hitting!: A Lift-the-Flap Book by Karen Katz. (2004 - Baby-Preschool)
With the help of this book, toddlers will love learning to say NO to hitting—and screaming and squeezing and yelling—and YES to fun! Refreshingly honest and all too true, this funny book is perfect for toddlers, and parents will find it a painless way to steer their little ones toward, shall we say, more acceptable behavior!
Penguin Who Lost Her Cool (The): A Story About Controlling Your Anger by Maria Sobel. (2001)
This book really helps kids learn steps for controlling their anger! It teaches them steps they can use to make good choices when they're mad. I use this with my students in grades K-5 and they enjoy the funny things that happen to the penguin character. It gives a realistic view of how losing your temper hurts relationships and brings bad consequences. I'd recommend the book to anyone who wants to help kids cope with tough emotions!
Scary Night Visitors: A Story for Children With Bedtime Fears by Irene Wineman Marcus and Paul Marcus with Susan Jeschke (illus). (1991 - Ages 4-8)
Scary Night Visitors helps young children understand the sources of their bedtime fears, by showing how a young boy's scary visitors are projections of his own angry feelings toward his younger sister as well as his fear that his bad wishes might come true. He discovers that his thoughts and wishes are not as powerful as he fears, so he can feel safe enough to let himself experience his emotions without imagining scary creatures.
School Reader Level 2: If You're Angry And You Know It by Cecily Kaiser with Car Pillo (illus). (2005 - Ages 4-8)
If you're angry and you know it,and you really want to show it,if you're angry and you know it,STOMP YOUR FEET!This Level 2 Scholastic Reader is perfect for young ones learning to sort out their emotions for the first time. Cecily Kaiser changes the lyrics to a favorite tune, telling children to do things like bang a drum, take deep breaths, and walk away when they're angry.
Sometimes I'm Bombaloo (bkshelf) (Scholastic Bookshelf) by Rachel Vail with Yumi Heo (illus). (2005 - Ages 4-8)
Most of the time Katie Honors is a good kid. But sometimes, when her baby brother has knocked over one too many of her beautiful castles, Katie becomes Bombaloo. She uses her fists and feet instead of her words. Her toys "end up all over the floor--and so does my brother." It takes some alone time, a lot of parental understanding, and a silly episode with flying underwear to calm Bombaloo down again and return her to her happy Katie Honors state.
Space Brat (Space Brat 1) by Bruce Coville with Katherine Coville (illus). (1992 - Ages 9-12)
It really wasn't Blork's fault he was a brat. It was the piece of eggshell that got stuck behind his ear the day he was hatched. It made him cry. But baby Splatoons aren't supposed to cry. So Blork got a brat label stuck on his head. Soon Blork really was a brat - the worst on the planet Splat. And he learned to throw tantrums better than anyone else on the planet. But even a mega-tantrum can't save Blork's pet poodnoobie the day it's taken away by the Big Pest Squad.
Touching Spirit Bear by Ben Mikaelsen. (2001 - Ages 9-12)
Cole Matthews is angry. Angry, defiant, smug--in short, a bully. His anger has taken him too far this time, though. After beating up a ninth-grade classmate to the point of brain damage, Cole is facing a prison sentence. But then a Tlingit Indian parole officer named Garvey enters his life, offering an alternative called Circle Justice, based on Native American traditions, in which victim, offender, and community all work together to find a healing solution.
Unusual Suspects (The) (The Sisters Grimm, Book 2) by Michael Buckley and Peter Ferguson.
The Sisters Grimm start school at Ferryport Landing Elementary. Daphne’s lucky enough to get Snow White for a teacher—she loves little people—but poor Sabrina’s stuck with Mr. Grumpner and a class of mildly psychotic sixth graders. When Mr. Grumpner is found hanging in a spider’s web, it is up to the Grimms to find the Everafter who did it. If only Sabrina can get over her distrust of all fairy-tale folk. But how can she trust those who just might be responsible for the disappearance of her parents?
When I Feel Angry (Way I Feel Books) by Cornelia Maude Spelman with Nancy Cote (illus). (2004 - Baby-Preschool)
It's hard to be a bunny. Sometimes a bunny feels angry--especially if someone is teasing or if Mom is paying more attention to the new baby in the family. But there are things a bunny can do to keep anger from taking over--exercise, rest, cry, or even ask for help. This gentle book puts an adorable bunny in a variety of situations that preschool or grade-school children can relate to. Instead of acting out, the bunny and her friends find constructive ways to deal with their anger.
When Sophia Gets Angry: Cuando Sofia Se Enoja, Se Enoja de Veras by Molly Bang. (2002 - Ages 4-8) (in Spanish)
This thoughtful story addresses one of the most difficult challenges facing parents: what do you do when your child becomes angry? When a little girl named Sophie gets angry, she goes outside and runs. She cries, and then she climbs her favorite tree. Calmed by the breeze and the view, she is soon ready to go home and everyone is happy she's back.
When You're Mad: And You Know It (Feelings for Little Children Ser.) by Elizabeth Crary and Shari Steelsmith with Mits Katayama (illus). (1996 - Baby-Preschool)
Jump! Make a face! Let it show! Help your toddler learn ways to express feelings with these charming and exuberant board books!
Zen Tails: No Presents Please (Zen Tails) by Peter Whitfield with Nancy Bevington (illus). (2005 - Ages 9-12)
Grizzel Bear is angry. He stomps the flowers, he grumbles, he complains. The sun is in his eyes, the trees are in his way, and the wind musses his fur. On the path he meets Guru Walter Wombat, who is full of love and compassion. As Grizzel rages, Walter smiles and refuses to accept Grizzel's anger. "You tried to give me a stomp on the head, a bone crunching Grizzel Bear squeeze and a punch on the nose. I would not want those presents even if it was my birthday.”
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SOS: SEARCHING OUT STORIES AND INFORMATION ABOUT ANGER, ANGER MANAGEMENT, HUMAN EMOTIONS
Advice, Comments and References from Storytellers, Teachers and Librarians
(excerpts from Storytell posts plus original research)
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I'm looking for stories suitable for adults on the theme of anger, anger management, anger mismanagement, etc. PLEASE send a story skeleton.
a) What about the "Why Meat Loves Salt" story where the father gets upset when he asks how much his daughters love him. The first two give rather saccharine answers, but the last says, "Why, Daddy, I love you as Meat loves Salt." He is FURIOUS, and sends her away. She ... does something ???- eventually marries well, and is Queen of a Kingdom when her father comes to visit. They serve meat without salt. Everyone complains except her father who starts crying. Wishes he could see his daughter as he know understands how his quick judgment and temper kept him from seeing the truth and love in his daughters answer.
b) Several tales come to me regarding anger: the first is a Zen tale told by Pema Chodron, which I recorded on Making Peace-Heart Uprising about a Samarai warrior obsessed with the question of the difference between heaven and hell. He demands an answer from a famous monk. the monk is preoccupied with making tea and does not answer him swiftly, instead focuses on what he is doing. In frustration the warrior lifted his sword threatening him, "If you do not answer me, I will kill you." the monk responded, "that is hell." Disarmed and startled the warrior put down the sword, "That is heaven."
The other is an Afghan tale in my new book A Key to the Heart: A Collection of Afghan Folk Tales called "The Moustache" about an argument between two merchants that escalates because one man is jealous of hte other's moustache and accuses him of growing to prove he is stronger. Ah. now, the book is beautiful and it is made to raise money for schools in Afghanistan and has all ready built two. To hear or read the story, please go to my website and purchase the book. All funds go to A SCHOOL OF HOPE in Ghazni province.
c) The Tiger's Whisker, and Other Tales from Asia and the Pacific by Harold Courlander. This is on our new CD. We learned it first [over 20 years ago] as a Korean tale and have kept it that way although there are versions from other parts of Asia. An African version in which a lion replaces the tiger also changes the relationship to step-mother and step-son. The text and paragraphing below is close to the way we share the story as tandem tellers. Before telling The Tiger's Whisker you might want to ask the listeners to list some things they know about these characters:
Tiger [What do you know about tigers?]
Soldier [What do you know about soldiers?]
Herbalist [What does he or she do and know?]
Wife/mother [What do we expect of a wife and mother?]
d) The old story of Gelert, which is a British folktale but it has variants in other countries. I only vaguely know it. The man hears a kerfuffle and finds his dear dog with blood on his chops standing over a corpse - can't remember of what. In fury he kills the dog, but then too late finds out that the corpse was actually killed by a wolf, and his dog risked his life fighting it, hence the blood on his jaws. A bird of prey comes into one version. Sorry to be so vague but I'm sure others know versions. Briggs' A Dictionary of British Folk-Tales in the English Language (Part A: Folk Narratives) one, I think.
e) Philip Anderson wrote: There is a chapter about the Gelert legend, its predecessors and analogues in Sabine Baring-Gould's Curious Myths of the Middle Ages: The Sangreal, Pope Joan, The Wandering Jew, and Others (Dover Books on Anthropology and Folklore). This also looks at the Wandering Jew, William Tell, the Pied Piper of Hameln, Pope Joan ... It's wonderful book to browse through. The Welsh story is that Llywelyn Fawr (the Great) went out hunting one day, leaving his favourite hound, Gelert, behind to look after his baby son (or the dog did not come when called). When he returned, he was created by the hound, covered in blood and with a bloody mouth, and when he rushed into the tower he saw the cradle overturned, the bedclothes covered in blood and no sign of his child. He immediately assumed that the dog had gone mad and attacked devoured the boy, and drawing his sword stabbed him to death. Then he heard a weak cry from underneath the cradle and lifting it and the clothes found his son unharmed and the body of a huge wolf, dead with its throat torn out; obviously killed by Gelert. Full of remorse, he erected a monument to the faithful dog, and the location is still called Beddgelert (the Grave of Gelert), and much visited by tourists.
will show you where Beddgelert is in North Wales.
But the story was not associated with the place until 1793, by a local innkeeper, and was then popularised by a ballad. The dog was said to be a gift from Llywelyn's father-in-law King John (he who lost his treasure in the Wash), named Kill-hart, and therefore presumably English. At least Llywelyn's dog was faithful - his wife, Joan/Siwan, was imprisoned for adultery and her lover, a Norman knight, executed - Saunders Lewis wrote a play on this.
The story has been traced back to an Indian version (I hesitate to say 'original' of course), where an ichneumon (mongoose) kills a snake, in (Tim's favourite) Panchatantra and this, or its successors, was the source for Muslim and Jewish versions, themselves the source for mediaeval Latin monkish tales in the Seven Sages and the Gesta Romanorum; there is a Welsh version of the former in the Red Book of Hergest (which also contains one version of former in the Red Book the Mabinogion). (Curiously enough, these Latin tales seem be almost entirely based on Classical and Oriental sources, never the vernacular folklore, although clerics like Gerald of Wales recorded plenty of the latter) In the opposite direction, the Mongolian Uligerun (a translation of the Tibetan Dsanglun) apparently includes a version of this story, received via Buddhist missionaries, with a polecat. But things may not be so simple; there is a Greek version, recorded in Pausanius (C2AD), with a snake protecting a baby from a wolf at Ophiteia (Snake Town), so it may have been current orally in the West before the Eastern versions came in, and I'm not one of those who think stories only migrated from the East (or from the Celts).Anyway, there is a more general motif of a man being rendered a service by a dumb animal friend, which he misunderstands and hence kills: In a Latin poem 'Culex' (The Gnat) attributed to Virgil, a countryman is stung by a gnat, which he swats before seeing the snake the gnat was warning him about. S. B-G quotes a tale very similar to your eagle one, but with a falcon, from the Anvar-i-Suhaili (I don't know this) ; this is said to occur, with variations in Aesop (anyone know where?), Aelian and Apthonius. In an Egyptian story, a (?dumb) slave smashes a plot of herbs which a cook has prepared, and the irate cook thrashes him within an inch of his life; when he returns exhausted from this labour to examine the broken pot he discovers a poisonous snake among the herbs.
f) My favorite is a very simple Zen tale -- sorry I can't help with any attributions -- perhaps others can. Here it is and it begs to be told -- Every time I do, I get that lovely ahhh smiling response as people recognize the root of anger is believing someone is responsible! It's not really a performance tale, but in workshops about spirituality... it works.
Here's the story:
A man goes out in his boat. It is a lovely day and he leans back, letting his fingers drift in the water. No one else is around and he lays back further and falls into a dreamy state. Suddenly out of nowhere, there is a huge bump/thud and the man falls onto the floor of the boat. He is furious! how dare someone be so careless and knock into his boat! When he gets up off his knees and looks around, he sees that an empty boat, accidentally loosened from its moorings has bumped into him. Immediately his anger disappears....
I must confess that I sometimes look at people as I listen to them and in my head I am saying, "You're just an empty boat today and I'm not going to get mad at an empty boat!
g) Thanks for the memory jog. Here is another Zen tale which will work as well, The Gift of Insults. It can be found on this site.
"Zen Stories to Tell Your Neighbors"
h) Another beautiful anger story is "The Wounded Selkie."
Karen asked me for this story. I then found that I don't have a copy on my PC - just in my head. I thought the story was on this website:
but it isn't (although lots of other selkie tales are).
Thinking back, I suspect the story was originally posted by Alan Davies so someone may still have a version of that saved. But Google gave me this page which has the story in Katherine Briggs' Encyclopedia of Fairies: Hobgoblins, Brownies, Bogies, & Other Supernatural Creatures (Pantheon Fairy Tale and Folklore Library). Alan's version was essentially the same although the wounded selkie is the son rather than the father. My telling has certainly evolved over the last couple of years
i) There is a very powerful story by S.Y. Agnon on a similar theme, about a goat that takes the old man's son through a magic cavern to the holy land. The son sends the goat back to bring his father, putting a note in the goat's ear. But the father does not see the note and kills the goat in anger, at which time the note falls not. The father never sees his son again.
j) One of my fellow storytellers had great success with teenage boys in a residential treatment center by telling them the "Grail Story." She told it in eight weekly hour-long installments and it really resonated with the boys. I wouldn't even think of going hip-hop, I would stick with the classic folktales.
Allison Cox' books are a very good resource as is the HSA website
List member Bob Kangegis has done lots of this kind of work. I keep most of his e-mails in a folder for future reference.
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